BACKMen’s Negits: Patterns and Programs
| Scared little boy | Fear of not being a man/manly | |
| I must not show weakness | I have to be productive | |
| shy of women | Women are unstable | |
| Women must obey | All women are whores | |
| All women should be Virgin Marys | Distrust of women | |
| Men can’t win | Need to be punished by women | |
| Good boys don’t do that | Sexual fears | |
| Fear of telling the truth to women | Guilt about Mother | |
| Fear of failure with women | Women take my energy/money |
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| Women control me | must not show emotion | |
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Fear of surrender |
Fear of being a sissy/wimp | |
| Father’s fear of emotion | Need to prove myself | |
| Fear of LOVE | Fear of sex with LOVE | |
| Need to be better than | LOVE makes me weak | |
| Need to overpower and subdue | Macho man | |
| Survivor | Primitive sexual urge | |
| Need to control sexually | Man of the family | |
| Raper, pillager | Chauvinist | |
| Women hater | Warrior who hates himself/women | |
| Woman pleaser |
Warrior who hates all things weaker |
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| Cowboy (man of few words) | Emasculated | |
| War vibration | "Endure" vibration | |
| Male Ego | Female discounter | |
| Anger at mother/women | Anger at father/men/self |
There is a need to be brutally honest because it can not be healed if there is no recognition of the need to release it.