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Introduction to "Who You Really Are"

Before we get started, I'd like for you to sit down and take 5 minutes to write down all the things you like about yourself. Put down every good quality, skill, or physical attribute that you can think of.

You have already come to the understanding that you are physical and spiritual. The Physical part, you have a good understanding off and hopefully you are gaining a good understanding of the spirit within.

You are Light, You are LOVE, You are a Child of God.

When you were first born, you were perfect. Innocent, loving, trusting. Your parents were the dearest and most important things in your existence. You believed what they said to you. That is the beginning of you accepting someone else's definition of who you are and what is right for you.

This establishes our belief system. This establishes how we feel about ourselves and what we believe about ourselves. If we have a good environment, we grow up self confident, liking who we are. If we do not have good parents, then we become self-fulfilling prophecy of every negative things they said we were.

When I hear parents tell their little ones they are a piece of  shit that needs to be flushed down the toilet. I cringe. Or tell their little ones they will end up in prison, or they will never amount to anything. These are children. They have no point of reference to know the parent is kidding or didn't mean it, or was just letting off steam. These little ones BELIEVE what they are told.  Parents should never say or threaten anything that they actually would not do.

In the healing work that I do, I could cry from the things I have heard parents do and say to their little ones. No wonder there is so much drug and alcohol abuse. And suicide. And abusive relationships. So much pain and hurt and anger.

Ok, so your parents were not the greatest. You can sit there and blame them endlessly, and stay in this "poor me" attitude   ....or you can make some decisions to do something about it. You can decide to change your life, to heal your lousy fucked up life, and become the REAL you.

Your parents, teachers, church, taught you what they thought was best. They did the best they knew to do. Now it is your responsibility to use what is good and works for you, and CHANGE what does you harm and is NOT working for you. It is now time for you to take control of your life.

Are you Ready?

Jesus said "As you think so are ye"! And he didn't mean once in while. He meant literally. Actually. Really. Of every minute of every day, reality.

What we think about ourselves is TRUTH for us. We are responsible for everything in our lives, the best and the worst. EVERY THOUGHT WE THINK IS CREATING OUR FUTURE, OUR WORLD. Each one of us creates our experiences by our thoughts and our feelings. The thoughts we think and the words we SPEAK create our experiences. Just like God created the earth in Genesis...with his words! I bet you had no idea that YOUR words were so powerful.

We create the situations and then we give our power away by blaming other persons for our frustration. NO person, place, or thing has ANY power over us, for we are the only thinkers in it. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives. 

Sure there was stuff that happened to us, that maybe we could not control, especially when we were little, but now we are grown up (supposedly) and we DO HAVE CHOICE>

Let me give you an example of how this works. 

I knew an incredibly beautiful Nez Perce Indian girl. Smart. Beautiful. Built. And because of all the abuse she had endured at the hand of men in her life, her father included, she BELIEVED that ALL MEN were despicable. Because of this, when she dealt with men, SHE ALREADY HAD ATTITUDE. I saw this woman take the most mild manner of men and in short order have them yelling at her proving once again to herself her belief that men were abusive. But it was the energy SHE gave off <ATTITUDE> that caused the men to react to her in a negative way. She proved her belief time and time again. Her disrespect for men perhaps even hatred for men would ignite the male defenses.

Another example: we were going into business with a woman. She let us know right up front that NO ONE WAS GOING TO CHEAT HER. We didn't go into business with her because she EXPECTED us to cheat her. If anything had gone wrong even unintentionally, she would have been sure that we did it on purpose to cheat her. Why fulfill her belief system?

A closer example would have been my recent lesson with my mate.  I complained about his treatment of me but it was not until I realized I was playing the part of the martyr, (look how patient I am when he mistreats me) or the victim (look at poor me) did I reject the pattern and declared my personal power.  

Okay so you create the way people react to you. If you don't like it then YOU have to find a way to change that and you do that by looking at your belief system. The things that you believe to be true. Often the things your parents taught you, or others in your environment.

Let me give you one more example:

A young wife went to her mother and asked, "Mom, why do you cut the end off of the ham?" Mother replied, "I don't know. My mother always did it so I do too. Let's ask Grandma." So they went to the grandmother and asked her why she cut the end off of the ham before she cooked the ham. Grandma replied, "Because my pan was too small."

Some of the things that you {we} have accepted as truth might have been valid at the time but are not valid anymore. It might be true when you were four, but isn't any more. It might have been true for Grandma but it just doesn't work in your life.

Which statement might be true for you...

"People are out to get me." or  "Everyone is always helpful."

Each one of these beliefs will create quite a different experience. 

"I HAVE to go to work" or "I GET to go to work"

You can feel the energy difference in the statements.

What we believe about ourselves and about life becomes true for us. Put another way, our subconscious mind accepts whatever we choose to believe and enacts that belief in our life. That is why changing is so difficult. Consciously we can say, this needs to be done. "I need to give up drinking" and then the subconscious takes over and logic disappears. Changing the subconscious is done on two levels. YOU make the conscious  choice to change and then you to reprogram the subconscious or spiritual level. Meditation is the most effective way to do this but affirmations also works.

What you CHOOSE to think about yourself and life becomes true for you. And we have unlimited choices about what we can think, so why not choose the positive "Everyone is helpful"?  "I GET to go to work"?

The Creator is a very loving and giving Father. He wants us to have what we want... even those lessons that are negative can be turned to a positive IF we learn from them. Remember, when we say "Father, I need, I need, I need," he says "Yes my child" and then he gives you more of the same. How much more effective to say "Thank you Father, Thank you for a good life, Thank you for health, Thank you for abundance" Then when the Father says "Yes my child." it affirms the positive and then he gives you more of it.

I know that it sounds so simple but If it was EASY don't you think the whole world would have caught on by now? We are promised that TRUTH is SIMPLE> that is why it is so easily over looked.

The Creator, {UNIVERSE< HIGH SELF> SUBCONSIOUS) ACCEPTS US AT OUR OWN VALUE. THEN REFLECTS OUR BELIEFS IN OUR LIVES.

 If I want to believe that life is lonely and that nobody LOVEs me then that is what I will find in my world. However, if I am willing to release that belief and to affirm for myself that "LOVE is everywhere, and I am loving and lovable," and pull that energy into myself <INTERNALIZE> THEN IT WILL BECOME TRUE FOR ME. 

All the events you have experienced in your lifetime up to this moment have been created by your thoughts and beliefs you have held in the past. They were created by the thoughts and words you have used yesterday, last week, last month, last year,....get the picture? However, that is your PAST. It is over and done with. Take the lesson that it has for you and move on. What is important in this moment is what you are choosing to think and believe and say RIGHT NOW. For these are the thoughts and words that will create your future. Your POINT OF POWER is in the present moment RIGHT NOW, and is forming the experience of tomorrow, next week, next month, next year....

What are you thinking right now? Negative..."what a bunch of hooey" or positive..."wow, how simple, I can do this!" Which thought will change your future?

Try this... feel the vibration of the words..."I am worthless, I'll never succeed". Pretty low huh, Now feel the vibration of..."I am the Light, Darkness flees before me". Or try "God LOVEs me, I am important to HIM" Say it a couple of times feeling the vibration. The more you say it the more the energy will build. Same with the negative.

When someone puts you down, you can feel the energy being zapped right out of you. But if someone gives you a good word, "Hey that was a great job you did" it builds energy. When YOU BEAT YOURSELF UP over the past or a choice that you have made, you pull that energy off yourself and keep your vibration low. This is done in many ways." I'm dumb", "I sure am stupid". "I can't do anything right". "I'll probably do it wrong". "I can't make a decision right". "Boys don't cry". "Girls can't handle money". "Boys aren't good at English". "Girls can't do math". "I'm a bad person". "I'm nothing but a damn alcoholic". "With my luck everything will go wrong". The list is endless and limiting in every way.

No matter what the problem is, our experiences are just outer effects of inner thoughts. Even self-hatred is only hating a thought you have about yourself. You have a thought that says, "I'm a bad person" This thought produces a feeling <vibration> and you buy into the feeling. However if you don't have the thought, you won't have the feeling. And thoughts CAN BE CHANGED.

The past has no power over us. It doesn't matter how long we have had a negative pattern. The point of power is in the present moment. What a wonderful thing to realize! We can begin to be free in this moment.

Guilt, Resentment, Criticism, and Fear cause the major problems in our bodies and in our lives. These feelings come from blaming others and not taking responsibility for our own experiences. If you find yourself saying, "Everyone always does such and such to me", "criticizes me", "is never there for me", "uses me like a doormat", then this is YOUR PATTERN. When you change your thoughts, then you will no longer ATTRACT people into your life who will treat you this way. Easier said than done but it IS TRUE, TRUE, TRUE.

Another Example; If you are an alcoholic or drug addict: 

Change your focus from what alcohol has done to you to what you have learned from alcohol. These are lessons. You learned that you lie. You learned that you cheat. Maybe you learn that you steal. You may have learned that all your meaness comes out when you drink. 

 Okay, Lying taught you that people won't trust your word. Cheating taught you that women won't trust you. Stealing taught you that your friends don't want you around cause they don't want their things stolen. Being mean taught you that you didn't like yourself to well the next morning. Okay you learned these lessons. Do you want any more of these lessons???? 

NO!?!?!?!?

Okay then these lessons taught you that you want to be honest, you want to be faithful, you want to be fair. Now you have turned very difficult and hard lessons into a positive. You just chose the hard way to learn your lesson. That's okay. They are lessons you won't forget.

The title to this page is Introduction to who you really are.  At this point you have found out you are living an identity that others around you have defined. You may have noticed that you are one persona around your parents and different around your friends. You may even be different at work. .All of these are personas that you have found work or maybe they are not working in that place. In short, you are a phoney and an impostor or maybe an actor but under all of that you have no idea who you really are. This is the beginning of a journey to help you discover the remarkable, unique, one of a kind, incredible creation that you are.

This journey will last your whole life. And you will never cease to be amazed through out the entire journey. At first you will take along all the personas and excess baggage, but as you work along this path you will be able to strip away the outfits that don't fit you any more, and throw away all the extra baggage you are carting around. And then you will discover that you never needed all that stuff in the first place.

Meditation: This link will eventually take you to a meditation to begin your healing. Loving Yourself

Book suggestion: You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay www.hayhouse.com

Healing technique: At the beginning of this page, I suggested that you write down every good thing about yourself that you can think of. If you made 10 on the list, you are doing great. But you should be able to list 100 things. Got a ways to go huh? 

Listing what we don't like about ourselves is easy. What I want you to do is to think of what you don't like but make a list of what you want to have in your life , what you want to be in your life, instead. Start with a few.

You have just made a list of affirmations.

  An affirmation is a statement of change. For instance, "I am willing to change" could be your affirmation. Write the affirmation "I am willing to change" down on paper, tape it to mirror or/and refrigerator, or/and car dash, where you will see it many times a day. Say it over and over to yourself. Look into a mirror, looking deep into your eyes and say it. Say it until it becomes a part of you.

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